When it comes to understanding feminine needs and desires, it is important to know in addition to our everyday needs and desires, there are basic needs women and men have as humans. Due to our culture and society today, these are likely desires that women don’t realize they have because no one really talks about them, however, they are deeply engrained in our heart.
Think about the need to be desired, protected or provided for by a man.
Before you jump out of your chairs and tell me you are a strong independent woman and that you don’t need a man, I invite you to PAUSE. Be open and willing to see the opportunity and power in the statement. I am in no means saying that you should not be a strong, independent confident woman, who can provide for herself, however, what I am suggesting is that if you managed your energy and allowed yourself to be open to the energy a masculine man could provide, you could be open to more magic and miracles in your life as a woman.
Women all have a variety of different desires to explore, however, according to the book Wild at Heart, by John and Stasi Eldredge, God created 3 core basic human needs and desires for every woman and desire is an impulse that originates from the soul. These core desires are planted in a woman’s heart. They are 1) the desire to be romanced, desired, cherished and treasured, 2) to play an irresistible role in great adventure and 3) to unveil beauty.
The interesting theme in all these desires is that they involve other people. Women are not meant to live by themselves and do everything on their own. Women are meant to need each other people, including men. (We will go into this more deeply in a later chapter). In our search for POWER, many women have become strong, confident, independent, powerful women, HOWEVER, they have buried, ignored or invalidated their core desires of being a woman. If you hide or bury them, they are STILL THERE, whether you choose to bring attention to them or not.
THIS… is why women believe SOMETHING IS MISSING.
THIS… is why women long to desired and have intimate connections with their partner.
THIS… is why women want to focus on beauty.
These desires are NOT to be superficial or needy, but rather, they are CORE needs/desires of being a woman. A woman longs to be romanced; a man longs for a battle to fight, to pursue. When we let our man know that we need him to pursue us. We long from him to swoop in and save the day, he will, because that is HIS heart’s desire.
Too many women are busy trying to be their own masculine and competing with other women, that they don’t understand how magnificent it is to have a male human being in their life to protect and provide for them. It’s amazing what the masculine provides to the feminine who longs and desired to be wild, free, creative, luscious, soft, opened, surrendered and erotic. The masculine provides so deeply to that part of you which so desperately longs and desires to be seen and fully expressed. When a woman opens to worship the feminine and honors the masculine, magic begins to unfold in her life.
“A woman in the presence of a good man, a real man, loves being a woman. His strength allows her feminine heart to flourish. His pursuit draws out her beauty. And a man in the presence of a real woman loves being a man. Her beauty arouses him to play the man; it draws out his strength. She inspires him to be a hero.” –John & Stasi Eldredge, Captivating
