What where you taught about DESIRE? Were you taught it was wrong, bad and shameful? It is gluttonous to WANT more than what you have. You should be grateful for what you have and not be selfish. There are so many poor people in the world who need support and YOU don’t need that. The list goes on and on.
I spent some time evaluating what I really thought about desire. What was I taught? Could it be that I had limiting beliefs around desire? Could it be that I was taught certain things to protect me from desire? Could it be that this fire and itch inside of me was real? There really is more to desire than I originally thought! If I was thinking this way, could it be that others were thinking and feeling the same thing too? Are we all secretly wondering but not sure where to go? Are we all wanting a sacred sisterhood where we can know that we are NOT alone in how we feel?
I had my own thoughts and decided to interview other women, and what I found is that they had many of the same beliefs, but at the same time, there was this nagging and yearning inside of them, that was SEARCHING FOR SOMETHING MORE
We REALLY do want and desire MORE in our lives
We REALLY do want to experience passion, romance and pleasure.
We REALLY do want to feel adventure, excitement and fulfillment
We REALLY do want to want to feel beautiful, alive and vibrant
We REALLY do want to feel like a woman..
Women are hungry for desire and don’t know it!!!
I was reading a book, Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and came across the top 3 core desires of men and women that God placed in our hearts. Women want, romance, purpose and to look and feel beautiful. I stopped in my tracks and thought WOW. This is in alignment with what I feel and what many of the women I interviewed shared. This book also proceeded to talk about our Christian beliefs and how unfortunately our beliefs can get in the way of what we truly desire.
Some of you may agree or disagree with me here, but I feel called to share the insights that were downloaded to me. What I realized after reading this book is that the reason it was hard for me and so many other women to claim what they really wanted is because at the core, we were told DESIRE is EVIL.
I was taught things like…
Desire is evil
Desire is wanting more than what we have
I should be happy what I have and not want more.
Desire is selfish and gluttonous
I need to earn what I want, not just expect it
If I didn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it
… the list goes on….
Where did these believes come from? I believe it stems from our cultural, familial and religious beliefs passed down from generation to generation. After much research and contemplation, I found some insights with the story of Adam and Eve. In short, Eve had a desire to eat from the fruit of the tree. She went after her desire, when she was told not to and felt embarrassed and ashamed. She felt naked. She was banished from the garden and experienced a completely different life than before going after her desire. In short, this can translate into “Going after your Desires is Evil or Wrong”. If you go after your desires, you are going against God’s will and will be punished. I know there are many folks who might question me on this interpretation, however, this is my observation and belief. The truth is we ALL have subconscious beliefs that are blocking us from moving forward in our lives. I encourage you to think…. WHAT IF… this is something that could be blocking me?
If you have a subconscious belief that “Desire is Evil”, it will be VERY HARD for you, go after your desires. It will be very hard to identify what you want, let alone claim it and take time for you to manifest what you desire. What I have learned in my years of healing, is that Desire is causative and calls us forward. Desire is a tool that God has provided to allow us to create more for our lives. If you struggle with claiming what you want and desire in life, maybe, just maybe there is a limiting belief that is STOPPING you from claiming what you really want in your life.