November 26, 2021

The wrong things you were taught about desire!


What where you taught about DESIRE?  Were you taught it was wrong, bad and shameful?  It is gluttonous to WANT more than what you have.  You should be grateful for what you have and not be selfish.  There are so many poor people in the world who need support and YOU don’t need that.  The list goes on and on.

I spent some time evaluating what I really thought about desire.  What was I taught?  Could it be that I had limiting beliefs around desire?  Could it be that I was taught certain things to protect me from desire?  Could it be that this fire and itch inside of me was real?  There really is more to desire than I originally thought!  If I was thinking this way, could it be that others were thinking and feeling the same thing too?  Are we all secretly wondering but not sure where to go?  Are we all wanting a sacred sisterhood where we can know that we are NOT alone in how we feel?

I had my own thoughts and decided to interview other women, and what I found is that they had many of the same beliefs, but at the same time, there was this nagging and yearning inside of them, that was SEARCHING FOR SOMETHING MORE

We REALLY do want and desire MORE in our lives
We REALLY do want to experience passion, romance and pleasure.
We REALLY do want to feel adventure, excitement and fulfillment
We REALLY do want to want to feel beautiful, alive and vibrant
We REALLY do want to feel like a woman..

Women are hungry for desire and don’t know it!!!

I was reading a book, Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and came across the top 3 core desires of men and women that God placed in our hearts.  Women want, romance, purpose and to look and feel beautiful.   I stopped in my tracks and thought WOW.  This is in alignment with what I feel and what many of the women I interviewed shared. This book also proceeded to talk about our Christian beliefs and how unfortunately our beliefs can get in the way of what we truly desire.

Some of you may agree or disagree with me here, but I feel called to share the insights that were downloaded to me.  What I realized after reading this book is that the reason it was hard for me and so many other women to claim what they really wanted is because at the core, we were told DESIRE is EVIL.

I was taught things like…
Desire is evil
Desire is wanting more than what we have
I should be happy what I have and not want more.
Desire is selfish and gluttonous
I need to earn what I want, not just expect it
If I didn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it
… the list goes on….
Where did these believes come from? I believe it stems from our cultural, familial and religious beliefs passed down from generation to generation.  After much research and contemplation, I found some insights with the story of Adam and Eve.  In short, Eve had a desire to eat from the fruit of the tree.  She went after her desire, when she was told not to and felt embarrassed and ashamed.  She felt naked.  She was banished from the garden and experienced a completely different life than before going after her desire. In short, this can translate into “Going after your Desires is Evil or Wrong”. If you go after your desires, you are going against God’s will and will be punished.  I know there are many folks who might question me on this interpretation, however, this is my observation and belief.  The truth is we ALL have subconscious beliefs that are blocking us from moving forward in our lives.  I encourage you to think…. WHAT IF… this is something that could be blocking me?

If you have a subconscious belief that “Desire is Evil”, it will be VERY HARD for you, go after your desires.  It will be very hard to identify what you want, let alone claim it and take time for you to manifest what you desire. What I have learned in my years of healing, is that Desire is causative and calls us forward.  Desire is a tool that God has provided to allow us to create more for our lives.  If you struggle with claiming what you want and desire in life, maybe, just maybe there is a limiting belief that is STOPPING you from claiming what you really want in your life.

November 26, 2021

What they don’t teach you in school.

What They Don’t Teach You in School

This month I want to talk about what it REALLY means to believe.  As a young girl I was raised in a Catholic home and my faith was the foundation and bedrock of my family.  I was taught various beliefs, values, and guiding principles about life.  Since faith was the foundation of my family, I never questioned them.  I followed the rules and took on all those values and beliefs as my own.

Over the years, I slowly started to discover that not all the beliefs I was taught felt good to me, but how could I dare begin to question what was solidly true?  I remember many times my faith was challenged.  I could feel this overwhelming feeling of “Is this from God or the Devil?”  I knew what I was taught and yet what I felt in my heart was so different.  Who should I listen to?  Which feeling is from God and which is from the Devil? How do I reconcile what is showing up for me?

Early in my journey after I attended a retreat 8 years ago, I remember I met two beautiful women at a networking event, one was a Psychic Medium and another was a Tantric Healer. I loved their enthusiasm and energy and felt called to connect with them.  They were such beaming bright lights and it felt good to be around them.  After the meeting, a highly successful Christian woman came up to me and warned me NOT to connect with them.  It was very strange.  She demanded that I not entertain conversing with these women for my own protection, because they were not of God and that she prayed for their souls daily.

I was in shock and confused.   I respected this woman, and yet, I also really connected with the two new women I had just met.  At this time in my life, my faith taught me, that reiki, energy workers, psychics etc… were not from God, but from the Devil.  So, I went to the chapel to pray for guidance.  I was confused.  My heart was pulling me in one direction and what I was taught was pulling me in another.  Which voice do I listen to?  Later that evening a friend of mine (another Christian woman) said Jen, I met this amazing woman who I think you need to meet.  It was one of the 2 women I had met earlier that day.  In that moment, I KNEW I needed to follow my heart.  This was God telling me it was safe and welcome to meet with these women.

In that moment, I shifted an old belief about “energy work” and these women.  Not because I found proof written in the bible, or an article online.   I FELT IT in the core of my being.   It was like the fear I had was wiped away.  I prayed and asked for guidance and was given the answer.  God always says, “ask and you shall receive.”

This is just one example early on in my journey of having to face some tough roadblocks of deciding which path to take.  Learning how to listen to the wisdom of my body and discern what is truth and what is a lie.  Over the past 10 years I have discovered many beliefs that have stopped me from stepping into the fullest version or myself.  I was living a lie, walking around numb and unfulfilled and didn’t know it.  I thought I was doing what I was supposed to do.   I thought I was being a good mom, good wife, good friend and living up to others’ expectations,  but what I have learned now is how to open my heart, body and mind to the truth that is inside of me.

I invite you to join me on a journey to discovering the truth about YOU.  The truth about DESIRE.  The truth about LOVE.  The truth about your BODY.  The truth about SEX.  The truth about POWER.  The truth about WEALTH and VALUE. 

The truth is we didn’t learn these things in school.  Our education was focused on reading, writing and arithmetic.  Our parents did the best job they could with the knowledge they had, but if they didn’t know they couldn’t teach us either. I want to help guide you on a journey to becoming the fullest expression of who you are as a woman.  When you learn how to become aware of your beliefs, let go of what is no longer serving you and claim your desires, you step into your feminine power and shine your light into the world.  Stay tuned for more nuggets of wisdom of what I have learned on this journey to unlocking my feminine power and stepping into fullest expression of me.  I hope you are curious, inspired and motivated to learn how you too can shift the beliefs that are no longer serving you and live a life filled with passion, pleasure and purpose.