What do you BELIEVE about WORTH ?
There is a big difference between self-esteem and self-worth, even though many times they are used interchangeably. Self- Esteem is a measure of how you feel about yourself at any given moment and is usually based on your skills, talents and abilities. Your worth however, is not a product of your talent, your looks, your intelligence or how much you have accomplished.
Your worth is not defined by WHAT YOU DO, but rather WHO YOU ARE. It is an immeasurable component of your eternal and infinite oneness with the Universe. Your worth can not be taken away from you. It can not be damaged by life’s traumas or challenges. We are all born worthy and deserving. Your worth is intertwined into your very being as a human, however, as imperfect beings, you can easily forget or ignore your value and worth.
What were YOU taught about being worthy and deserving?
Honestly, as I reflect back, while I may have been taught that I was an amazing beautiful child of God, I still was taught to believe that I had to earn things in my life based on my skills, talents and abilities. I was rewarded and praised for what I accomplished or did in my life. I had to work hard and prove myself in order to be worthy and deserving of receiving praise, gratitude and recognition. While I knew God would provide me grace and forgiveness daily, I still had to prove my worth and value in everything I did.
Your value and worth is about knowing your beliefs, owning your desires, loving yourself and your body, standing in your power and claiming your value so you can shine your light and radiance into the world. There is a beautiful quote from Brene Brown that I absolutely love, that fully encompasses the depth of what this means to me.
“I’ve come to this belief that, if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in his real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A, has done her work and, B, does not derive her power from that man.
Show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I’ll show you a guy who’s done his work and a man who doesn’t derive his power from controlling and fixing everything.”
When we are focused on OURSELVES and not on fixing or saving others, we can fully stand in our value and our power. When we let go of the need to control, fix or save others and LIVE OUR LIVES, this is when we step into our truth. So many of us have the deep desire to help others. We want to make a difference in the world and make the world a better place, which is noble and honorable. However, we can tend to base our value and worth on the success or failure of others.
If a loved one succeeds, we feel accomplished, worthy and deserving and when a loved one fails or doesn’t take our advice, we tend to question our value and worth. We can tend to feel bad and feel guilt or shame. Thinking or questioning, is there something we did wrong? What could we have done differently? . Did we say or do the “right things”? If only we could have made a different decision……
When we let go of the need to find our worth and value in others, we find our true selves. When we no longer need to fill our days searching to uncover what has been here all along, we no longer need to prove our value. We claim our value as a child of God, who is worthy and deserving of all our heart’s desires.