You hear phrases like, nurture yourself, self-care, take time for you, etc… You know self-care is important, but if you are overwhelmed like I was, you almost don’t know where to begin. You know that something feels off. You know that you have this burning desire for something more. You know that in your gut that something is missing, BUT where do you even begin? Will anyone even care if I start taking time out for me? Will anyone even notice? Will one small act REALLY make a difference? You will be surprised at how little things can make a big difference. The first step though is really looking at what you care about.
Do you REALLY care about how you look?
Do you REALLY care about how you are perceived?
Do you REALLY care about being put together?
Do you REALLY care that your house is messy or clean?
What we think to ourselves about ourselves REALLY does matter. If we even think to ourselves that things really don’t matter, then we will continue to bring it on. For what we think about, we bring about. I can remember as a little girl thinking that certain things didn’t really matter to me. I didn’t care.
The 3 little words that hurt our self-care practice is “I DON’T CARE” or Nobody Cares!
How often you find yourself saying the words “I don’t care”. If we look at this more closely, that means “SELF DOESN’T CARE”. WOW. We know our words are powerful, but when you continue to repeat the phrase I don’t care, you might not realize how often you are bringing “not caring” into your life.
Three years ago my word of the year was NURTURE. I focused on self-care from a variety of different angles. I began to take time for me. I began to meditate, rest, eat better, focus on spiritual, mental and emotional aspects of self, however I forgot one piece “the physical”. I let it go.I started off the year focusing on nurturing me, and then life and business got in the way. I didn’t spend as much time on self- care. I also didn’t realize that I was sabotaging myself by consistently using the words nobody cares.
I would find myself constantly saying, nobody cares around here. Nobody gives a shit. Does that sound familiar? WOW! Since my word of the year was NURTURE, the Universe was pushing things into my life to remind myself that my intention was to NURTURE myself. So when I wasn’t in alignment with my intention, the energy of the Universe sent messages my way to remind me of how I wanted to be and also sent me “not caring” messages, because I was actually inadvertently asking for them.
Self-care is MORE than taking time for you. Some people begin with eating healthier and exercising. These are both great places to start, however, SELF-CARE is BIGGER than that. It is paying attention to the words we choose and where we give our power away. Whenever you say, I don’t know or I don’t care, you are giving your power away and in fact, asking for nobody to care. The next time you find yourself saying those words, take a pause and really think about what you REALLY want in that situation. I bet your will find new opportunities for you.